Raising Defiant and Compliant Children – Part 1
All your sons will be taught by the LORD, and great will be your children’s peace. Isaiah 54:13
There are two kinds of children. The first are compliant ones – those who sleep through the night from the second week of life. They coo at their grandparents, and smile while their pajamas are being changed. They are never sick on the way to the grocery store. During later childhood they love to keep their rooms clean, and they do their homework brilliantly without being asked. Then there are defiant ones: ‘strong-willed kids’. They get their mother’s attention long before birth because they scratch their initials on the walls (of the womb) and kick like crazy. They enter the world yelling about the temperature in the delivery room, and complaining about the incompetence of the nursing staff. From about eighteen months forward, they want to run things and tell everybody what to do. Their favorite word is no! Compliant children are a breeze to raise, but defiant ones can turn out fine too. The secret is to shape their strong will during the early years, without breaking their spirit. This is done by setting boundaries very clearly, then enforcing them with loving firmness. Even the toughest kids find security in a structured environment where other people’s rights, as well as their own, are protected. When this is done right, even the most independent child can learn to be responsible and self-disciplined. And God will work with you. He promises: ‘All your children shall be taught by the LORD, and great shall be the peace of your children’.
Heavenly Father, having both types of children, I thank You for both types. All unique. In Jesus’ Name, Amen