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Guidelines For Blended Families - Part 2

I will be careful to lead a blameless life - when will you come to me? I will walk in my house with blameless heart.
Psalms 101:2

Almost half of all two-parent households are now blended families. If you're in one, here are some things you need to consider: (1) Every child is unique. Small children accept step-parents more easily than teenagers. Don't assume your authority will carry the same weight with older children. You may need to approach them more as a friend, while toddlers need nurture and security. (2) Create new family systems. Each family has its own system; "In our house we always" It's what makes family members feel part of an intimate group. Things like attending church together, sharing daily devotions, playing games, or just enjoying a good laugh, all help to establish that important sense of bonding and belonging. (3) Don't deny children access to their other biological parent. Remember, God blesses those "who make peace" (Matthew 5:9), so don't demean your "ex" before your kids, and don't use them as "messengers." Research confirms that children who spend time with both parents adjust better. It also decreases the possibility of them getting caught in the crossfire and wounded! (4) Always work in the children's best interests. There'll be events when you'll have to interact with your "ex," so get used to it - for the children sake! They need your love and understanding, especially when feelings are riding high and everybody's adjusting. Respect what's gone before and don't try to enforce your idealized interpretation of what a family should be. Whether you've come by it biologically or through marriage, parenting requires maturity - lots of it!

Prayer
Heavenly Father, help me to have the patience and understanding of you with my children. In Jesus' Name, Amen