Jesus said, 'When you offer your gift to God at the altar and you remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift ... Go and make peace... then come and offer your gift' (Matthew 5:23-24). It’s pointless to pray for other things until you’ve first made things right with those you need to forgive, or ask forgiveness from. But what if it’s impossible to be reconciled because the person has died? You can’t get a hearing, yet you’re still troubled about it. Here’s a suggestion: share your feelings with somebody you trust - a spouse, a counselor, a pastor. Be specific and completely honest. Pray with them, openly confessing your wrongs and the guilt you feel. You’ll be surprised at how prayer and the presence of an understanding, affirming friend can provide the relief you so desperately seek. After David had indirectly murdered Uriah, Bathsheba’s husband, his guilt was enormous. Adultery and hypocrisy just about wiped him out. When he could take it no more, he broke his silence and sought God’s forgiveness. But Uriah wasn’t around to hear his confession; he’d been dead almost a year. So the broken king called on the prophet Nathan and poured out his soul saying, 'I have sinned... ' Nathan listened patiently, then said, 'The Lord has taken away your sin... ' (2 Samuel 12:13). When you’ve hurt somebody, have the heart of a servant. Stop, make things right and then move forward with confidence.