Your family is like a team: you win only when you're willing to accept the strengths and weaknesses of each player. That includes you, too. You're not perfect, and you're not called to 'fix' everybody, so cut it out! Maybe your spouse is a disaster in the kitchen but she keeps a spotless house and her garden's the envy of the neighborhood. Don't put her down because you've been cooking since you were old enough to reach the stove. No, take the vegetables she grows and create a meal that makes both the cook and the gardener look good! Teams don't necessarily win because they have the best players; they win because they can work together. In football even the best player needs other team members to get him the ball, otherwise he'll never score. Build on your strengths, and minimize your weaknesses! And learn to accept reality! Some people will never change. You can waste years complaining, causing rifts, and driving yourself crazy over them. Or you can adjust your expectations and be a lot happier. If somebody's disorganized, don't ask them to arrange your next dinner party. Get somebody you can depend on. When you learn to do that, a 'less than ideal' family can become a source of comfort and love, seeing you through a lifetime of experiences. And don't bail out when things are bad. A family's like a stock market - bears and bulls! Wait a little longer! Let God work, and things will turn out for everybody's good!